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A Survival Guide to Staying Sane for Working Mums

Whether you work from home or work part time, juggling family life can often feel like juggling slippery wet fish!

As a mum who works part time whilst launching a home business, and whose husband works long hours, I understand the guilt and pressures that we as parents face.

I’ve compiled a list of my top tips to staying sane as a working mum and keeping a perspective on what really matters.

It’s has taken 9 long years but I think I might be halfway there!

1. Make sure you are 100% happy with your childcare arrangements

As a working mum I have spent hours agonising over childcare. At one point my son was in three different settings.  A childminder, a nursery and a pre-school.

It wasn’t easy and looking back and it probably wasn’t necessary.  I was trying to make sure he had the best of both worlds as I didn’t like the idea of him being at nursey full time and missing out on seeing the friends he had grown up with.  Luckily this time didn’t last for long.

Before choosing a nursery, I made sure I visited them in person, my son included. The first nursery I visited left me feeling very uneasy.  In fact, I remember bursting into tears after I had left!  The children never went out as there wasn’t a garden, and there were odd jobs around the room I could see needed seeing to.

They were Ofsted inspected excellent and had great reviews.  But it just wasn’t for us. I panicked as I already had it in my head that this was where he was going to go.  But I took a deep breath and did some research on other childcare settings and options and found an amazing childminder.

I learnt then you must always trust your gut and not to be pressured into anything when it comes to your kiddies.  If you are going to be worry about where your child is, you won’t relax, and you won’t be productive so, for that reason childcare is top of my list!

2. Get ready the night before

This is not easy for me. I am more than happy to bustle away on my PC working late into the evening but that’s as far as it goes, after tea the PJs are on and I’m in wind down mode, so I keep it as simple as possible!

I do my ironing on a Sunday late afternoon while watching a film (great excuse to be in control of the remote) so everything is ready for the week ahead.  My husband gets our son’s lunches ready each night while preparing his own.

I pack the school bags and get out any PE kit or musical instruments (see my next point!) and check to see if any slips need handing in.

Between us we have prepped and are ready to go each morning (just about)

TOP TIP: My work clothes are mostly iron free to save even MORE time. Got to love a bit of polyester!

3. Prepare your kids for the week ahead

So up until recently I never had a timetable on my wall until I was at the point of loosing the plot about what on earth was going on each week. That not only stressed me out but stressed my kiddo out!

You might have it all in your diary or calendar, but It’s super useful to have it laid out on an A4 sheet, up on the wall for everyone to see:

• What clubs are on each night
• When to do homework – when to hand it in
• When spellings are being tested – what nights to practice
• Which nights to read
• Any other important appointments

It’s not just for you but the WHOLE family.

If ‘reading night’ is written down in black and white it’s almost like the written LAW! It also saves on nagging – I just blame it on the timetable.

4. Organise your working time and stick to it

If you work set hours and are employed this is quite straightforward as your times are set for you.

If however you work from home it can be a little trickier depending on whether the kids are at home or at school during the day.

Decide on what times work best for you to get your head down. I’m an evening worker and often work from 9pm to 12pm most nights. Some people prefer early mornings.

If your kids are at school then decide which hours you are going to work and don’t get distracted by chores!  If you think you will, then get them done first.  Out of sight out of mind does work.  I have an office so I go in and shut the door.

With smaller children you could decide to take them out early morning, tire them out, then come home and have lunch and film time, while you cram a few hours in.

Try to separate your work time and your chore time into different chunks. Overlapping can get really tiring and distracting and can feel like you aren’t getting anywhere.

5. Accept you are doing the best you can

The fact that you are working AND raising these little human beings makes you a Supermum for a start so don’t ever forget it.  Add into the mix that you are trying your best to keep on top of everything – hellooo you are fricking amazing!!

Life is never perfect and there always seems to be something else going on to keep us on our toes.  Once you accept that things don’t always go to plan, but you know what, you tried your best, will make you feel less stressed and a lot happier. (a bottle of wine at the end of the week also really helps!)

6. Delegate Jobs

Do you know what, you probably aren’t the only person living in your house are you so divvy up those jobs!

Even if you are the only adult, kids are completely capable of helping out. Age dependant, let them empty the dishwasher, set the table, bring the laundry down, hoover etc. Okay so they may need a little persuading – my son is rather partial to a few pennies in return.

7. Learn to say no

So on top of being Supermum you might be the kind of person that:

• Helps out at events at school
• Volunteers your time at your kids’ clubs
• Bakes cakes for the school fayre
• Makes handmade costumes for World Book Day, Roald Dahl Day, Dress Up Day (these are also known as ‘Every Parents Worst Nightmare Days!)
• Puts in overtime at work
• Takes on another client when you are already at your limit

Can you see this list building up? Recognise yourself in there? At some point you might feel like an egg that’s about to crack? That’s when you say NO.

It’s a little word and its super hard to say, but sometimes you HAVE to.

Instead, of saying yes, now and again you could buy the cakes from the shop, or look for a second hand costume off ebay.  Maybe a friend can take it in turns to help at the school club?

It isn’t failing, it’s looking after yourself. And If you don’t look after yourself, you will find it really hard to look after anyone else.

8. And Finally…You Time

Make sure you meet up with friends or run the bath and shut the door. Whatever your ‘me time’ is put a date with yourself in your dairy and keep it.  You need it and we certainly deserve it!

Do you have any other tips for staying sane? I would love to hear them! Drop me a comment below.

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